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Podcast Episode 56

Response to question 1:

"You won't be the first person who has left home with nothing and struck out to a new city to make a new life without a safety net. get on a bus, drive away, go to a new city, find somebody you can be the roommate of, get a job pouring coffee somewhere at a coffee shop and exhale. Stop fucking around. You don't want to waste your whole fucking life living a lie. Often times when you feel trapped in a closet, you want to make your situation feel somehow noble, and your suffering you want to magnify to basically excuse yourself from taking any action... A lot of people have suffered like you've suffered. And there's a way out if you have the courage to take it. If you have the internet, and you have a gay friend, and you're not tied up in your mum's basement, you can be free! Are their hearts going to break? Good. They should. Because reality needs to bring your family into conflict with the fantasy that is their faith."

Response to question 3:

"What I know about sex with dolphins is probably exactly what you know about sex with dolphins, because if you google "sex with dolphins", and it sounds like you have googled "sex with dolphins", you come to a page that is titled "Sex with Dolphins: How To and A Personal Viewpoint". This person who claims to have had sex with dolphins has more information about sex with dolphins than I do, because I've never had sex with dolphins, or met anyone who's had sex with dolphins and I'm not particularly interested in meeting anyone who has ever had sex with a dolphin."

Question 6. The caller is a woman:

"Hi Dan, I've been with my girlfriend for about 9 months now and I recently discovered that she likes dirty talk. She had a previous sex partner who used to call her names and insult her with really nasty stuff like, umm, "You're a cunt-hungry cum dumpster". And I'm a little disturbed by this metaphor but I'm happy to try doing this with her but  the problem is I have really no imagination for this kind of thing. I mean, I tried it and the best thing I could come up with was like, "Oooh... You naughty tart." Which is lame, right? Totally lame. And kind of disturbingly Victorian. So I was wondering if you could advise me on where I could get some inspiration for talking dirty. And inasmuch as I'm a dyke, if you could recommend a book, that would be perfect. Thanks."

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